Parenting

Bringing God into Everyday Conversation with Your Children

By: Brad Rogers

If you are a follower of Jesus with children in your home, you may find it difficult to bring the reality of who God is into everyday conversations with your children. I know I struggle in this area.  Sometimes, it is because I don’t want to force a conversation or say the wrong thing (yes, even as a minister I have this fear).  We can also fear the eye rolls and irritated disinterest our children may have.  However, on the flip side if we neglect to do this, we may unwittingly show our youngsters that following Jesus has very little impact in our daily life.  Not only may this lead to our children feeling God is irrelevant, it could also make it easier for them to believe that this God who they have never seen is a fantastical figment of our imaginations as they grow older.   In “Make ‘God talk’ an Everyday Part of Family Life,” Julie Melilli gives some ideas on how to bring the reality of God into everyday conversation with your children.  Admittedly, there are some aspects of her exact words that I think might feel like you are throwing God in your child’s face.  We do always need to be careful not to be overbearing and so exasperate our children.  We certainly don’t want to give them the felt impression that God commands us to be overbearing with our children, which we can do if we are sinfully disrespectful of their personhood (possibly without meaning to or realizing it) while telling them God commands us to be this way.  However, the idea of what she communicates is important.  A fear of being overbearing should not silence Christian parents all together on a topic we claim is of utmost importance in our lives.  As parents this is an important enough matter that we should be willing to be a little unnatural or awkward in bringing God into our conversations with our children until we become more natural.  Julie Melilli’s article could be the kickstart and encouragement you need.  If you are a Christian parent with children in your home, it is a fairly quick read that is worthy of your time.

Read the article here.

 

 

First Day Tears

By: Rachel Rogers

Watching my babies grow up into the school-aged children they are now has been both my greatest joy and my sorrow. I’ve often wondered at the squeezing in my heart every time a new milestone is reached. These milestones are times to celebrate, but why does my heart ache and why do my tears come? Babies crawl and then run, teeth fall out and braces go on, training wheels come off and backpacks go on…this is the way it is supposed to go, so why does my heart resist? Why do I long for those chubby cheeked toddler years while simultaneously declaring I would never go back? Why do I cry on the first day of school every year?

I am not sure what first drew me to Jen Wilken’s article, “The Truth About Pain in Childbearing.” My days of giving birth have come and gone and I don’t need to read someone else’s article to remember the pain!  But I love this article. She put words to feelings and ideas my heart has had but could not express.  “As the years unfold,” Jen says, “we begin to understand that we have been introduced to the great truth of pain in childbearing, a pain we naively believed would be confined to labor and delivery, but that visits us at every transition we nurture our children toward: the measured inhale, the steady exhale, the mighty push. And separation.” Apparently, I was one of the naive!

Jen goes on to describe simply and beautifully the profound sanctification process that every mother’s heart goes through as we welcome little ones and shepherd them through life’s transitions.  If, like me, you have ever swallowed tears at what should be happy moments, like the first day of school, this article is for you.  Read it here.