By: Brad Rogers
I distinctly remember trying to read our ultrasound technician’s face to know the moment she could tell the gender of our baby. Rachel and I knew we would be happy with a boy or a girl; and in all of our conversations, Rachel never indicated a preference one way or the other – at least not that I can remember. However, for me, I knew deep down I had a slight leaning towards a boy because I envisioned playing catch in the back yard with him and coaching his sports teams. I have no idea if I have ever admitted this before now. Then, I saw just the slightest change of expression on the face of our technician and quickly confirmed, once again, that we indeed wanted to know our baby’s gender. She then let us know that “It’s a girl.” I was excited, hoping that this girl would wrap me around her finger. But, all of our previous conversations had not prepared me for Rachel’s clear, yet not drastic disappointment. Seeing I wanted an explanation from her she said, “She’s going to be a teenager.” I was dumbfounded. Our daughter was 19 weeks away from bursting forth into our world and I was concerned about changing diapers. Rachel was concerned about walking with her daughter through the troubled times of teenage life. We had just gotten matching cell phones from Cingular wireless so there is no way we could anticipate just how complicated the teenage years might be for our daughter. Fifteen years have passed, and I now have the experience of several years of ministry working with teens. These are trying times, but God and His truth about how we are to live still applies. In this linked article, seasoned mom and biblically astute, Jen Wilkin offers much wisdom about entering into the lives of our teenage girls that we might help them navigate the drama that so often circles them. She writes to help us lead our daughters into speaking the truth, owning sin, and asking for forgiveness. Whether you have teenage daughters, minister to them, love those who do, or are just looking to grow in these character traits and skills we should all seek to obtain and practice, this article is for you.