parenting

Family Gatherings, Graduation Parties, and Graduation Plans

By: Sean Scott

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This past Sunday we acknowledged quite a few graduating seniors at Redeemer. That means a lot of graduation plans, finding tickets for family, planning parties, and not to mention, remembering to not trip on stage as they receive their diploma. It is also a big time of transition for parents. I can only imagine what it must be like for our seniors’ parents seeing their child standing tall on graduation day while simultaneously having the images of their baby in their arms for the first time after they were born.

 

I am a brand new parent, and maybe that’s why I have paid such close attention to our families as they have approached and are navigating through this season of change. It’s hard not to dream and imagine what our daughter will be like, what she would have accomplished by the time she graduated high school. I have prayed for our families with graduates, that they would hold on to the promises of God that he has them in their hands, that his plans for their lives are far better than anything they could have come up with themselves.

 

As I was doing some reading on the subject, I stumbled across an article from Melissa Kruger on The Gospel Coalition. I had to stop reading after the first paragraph my first time around, unable to make out the computer screen through tears. But I came back to the article because I realized Kruger wasn’t simply attempting to make the reader cry. She has processed her feelings and opened herself up in vulnerability to write about this stage of life. The article is titled “Graduation: Grief and Gratitude,” and she captures her experience in a succinct yet helpful way.

 

Even if you are not a parent, your children are too young to say the word diploma, or have grandkids, give this article a read. There is good wisdom about not only philosophy of parenting, but how to process bittersweet transitions in life. I feel encouraged having read this article, that the Lord uses such transitional periods to bring himself glory because often, we find ourselves with no options but to run to him for comfort in the face of our grief, as well as overflow with joy as we express our gratitude for the ways he has shaped and molded these precious children.

 

Here is just a sample of Kruger’s words:

 

“I haven’t just lost my cuddly baby with chunky thighs and infectious laughter. I’ve gained a daughter taller than myself with a heart for Jesus that overflows to every person she meets. While we used to look at her in wonderment of what she’d become, we now look at her in amazement of who she is—which happens to be a much kinder person in every way than either of her parents. We fully recognize that what her genetic code didn’t offer her, the Spirit produced in beautiful ways.”

Read the rest of the article here

 

 

We Can Learn from the College Admissions Scandal

By: Brad Rogers

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While it would be easy to decry “those people” involved in the current college admissions, for those of us with children, it’s a good time to reflect on our own parenting.  What are our goals for children?  In what ways are we working towards those goals?  In what ways might we be sabotaging our own goals?  For Christians, it’s always good to ask what heart idols (things I love more than God) might be submarining my parenting?  Might I have some of the same loves (idols) that those involved in the college admissions scandal are displaying?  Kara Powell clearly articulates what should be the goal of Christian parenting. In the linked article, which appeared in Christianity Today, she helps us answer some of the above questions and could help many of us set a new direction in our parenting or re-set a direction that has steered off course.  

You can read the article here.

One Who is Faithful in Little is Also Faithful in Much

By: Brad Rogers

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We can feel a lot of pressure to get all of the big things in life right.  We can be deceived into thinking that it’s mostly the biggest moments that really make us and our children (if we have them) who we are.  Big moments can certainly shape us powerfully, but the everyday moments shape us powerfully too.  In fact, it’s those little moments that shape how we respond to the big moments.  The everyday moments by definition are not flashy, easily remembered in their specific details, or spectacular, but they do leave a lasting mark on who we are over our lifetimes.  In this article, Ed Drew gives a helpful reminder and encouragement not merely to parents, but to all of us who are walking daily with the Lord is what powerfully changes our lives over time. 

"One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much.." Luke 16:10a

It Takes a Church to Raise Our Children

By: Dan Seale

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As Debbi and I boarded the airplane for China we knew our children were in good hands, they were with our church family. We had entrusted our three daughters to our church family so we could meet and bring home our 4th daughter, AnGrace from China. This is one of thousands of times our church family has loved and cared for us and our daughters over the years. I am forever grateful to Redeemer Presbyterian Church, Knollwood Presbyterian Church and Crossroads Community Church for pointing my children to Jesus. Thank you.

It takes a church to raise our children to know and follow Jesus. No parent should be alone in this holy calling. The church can and should play a significant role in the spiritual formation of our children. Rachel Rogers shared this article with the staff and I want to share it with you because it so closely mirrors our personal experience. I hope this article will encourage those of you who are parents to be sure to welcome other adults into the lives of your children. I hope this article will encourage all of us to find a way to show and tell the children of Redeemer, Jesus is the one true Savior and He is worth loving, trusting, and following all the days of our lives. Remember, you are making an eternal impact through the way you love and serve our children at Redeemer. Keep up the good work and excel still more.

You can read the article here: The Church Loved My Daughter to Jesus by Scott Slayton