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Loneliness, the Movie Solo, Motherhood, and Community Groups

By: Dan Seale

How are loneliness, the movie Solo, motherhood and community groups connected?

Before I make that connection, let me ask you…

Do you ever feel lonely? 

When do you feel lonely? 

Why do you feel lonely?

Surprisingly to me, I can sometimes feel lonely in crowds, or in busy seasons of life.  It seems to pop up at unexpected times.  It’s important to distinguish between loneliness and aloneness. They sometimes overlap but they are not the same thing.   Even though I am blessed with good friends, a close family, and a great church family, I still have times of loneliness. 

 

In Finding God in my Loneliness, Lydia Brownback writes,

Loneliness is an indicator that something is missing, and that something is found only in Jesus Christ…Loneliness is everywhere, but we don’t talk about it too often. Perhaps that’s because we’ve grown accustomed to its oppressive weight that we’ve lost awareness of it altogether.

This summer Sean Scott blogged about loneliness and linked to a very helpful article about this topic. (Read it here)

However, I want us to keep talking about this topic because I think it is a great entry way into talking Gospel conversations with one another and with those who do not yet know and follow Jesus.  Loneliness is all around us. Something seems off for people, and underneath all the possible solutions is the need to recognize that our loneliness is calling us to God and that God redeems our loneliness.   Pick up Finding God in my Loneliness if you want to see how God speaks into various causes/circumstances of loneliness.

Now what’s the connection between loneliness, Solo, motherhood and community groups?

Loneliness is a growing destructive epidemic and provides a great opportunity for us to direct ourselves and others to God who came near to us in Jesus.

 

Pastor Sam Allberry writes about how the movie Solo reveals that the answer to our aloneness is not necessarily romantic partnerships but deep friendship.  Chewie was in Han’s life far longer than Leia.  The movie shows the beauty of friendship. Read his thoughts here.

 

Melissa Kreuger writes about the loneliness of motherhood, the beauty of friendship and the goodness of God in this article.  This shows how friendship can help us connect to God and one another more intimately.

 

Lastly, community groups provide a set time and space in your schedule to share life with other people.  We need to make space to find and build the kind of friendships that help us enjoy and pursue God.  If you are feeling disconnected or lonely, consider getting involved as we relaunch community groups in October.

 

God and the gift of friendship, with him and with others, are the medicine to our bouts of loneliness.  Fight to push towards God and believe and act on what is true. If you are His, you are never alone.

First Day Tears

By: Rachel Rogers

Watching my babies grow up into the school-aged children they are now has been both my greatest joy and my sorrow. I’ve often wondered at the squeezing in my heart every time a new milestone is reached. These milestones are times to celebrate, but why does my heart ache and why do my tears come? Babies crawl and then run, teeth fall out and braces go on, training wheels come off and backpacks go on…this is the way it is supposed to go, so why does my heart resist? Why do I long for those chubby cheeked toddler years while simultaneously declaring I would never go back? Why do I cry on the first day of school every year?

I am not sure what first drew me to Jen Wilken’s article, “The Truth About Pain in Childbearing.” My days of giving birth have come and gone and I don’t need to read someone else’s article to remember the pain!  But I love this article. She put words to feelings and ideas my heart has had but could not express.  “As the years unfold,” Jen says, “we begin to understand that we have been introduced to the great truth of pain in childbearing, a pain we naively believed would be confined to labor and delivery, but that visits us at every transition we nurture our children toward: the measured inhale, the steady exhale, the mighty push. And separation.” Apparently, I was one of the naive!

Jen goes on to describe simply and beautifully the profound sanctification process that every mother’s heart goes through as we welcome little ones and shepherd them through life’s transitions.  If, like me, you have ever swallowed tears at what should be happy moments, like the first day of school, this article is for you.  Read it here.