loneliness

Loneliness, the Movie Solo, Motherhood, and Community Groups

By: Dan Seale

How are loneliness, the movie Solo, motherhood and community groups connected?

Before I make that connection, let me ask you…

Do you ever feel lonely? 

When do you feel lonely? 

Why do you feel lonely?

Surprisingly to me, I can sometimes feel lonely in crowds, or in busy seasons of life.  It seems to pop up at unexpected times.  It’s important to distinguish between loneliness and aloneness. They sometimes overlap but they are not the same thing.   Even though I am blessed with good friends, a close family, and a great church family, I still have times of loneliness. 

 

In Finding God in my Loneliness, Lydia Brownback writes,

Loneliness is an indicator that something is missing, and that something is found only in Jesus Christ…Loneliness is everywhere, but we don’t talk about it too often. Perhaps that’s because we’ve grown accustomed to its oppressive weight that we’ve lost awareness of it altogether.

This summer Sean Scott blogged about loneliness and linked to a very helpful article about this topic. (Read it here)

However, I want us to keep talking about this topic because I think it is a great entry way into talking Gospel conversations with one another and with those who do not yet know and follow Jesus.  Loneliness is all around us. Something seems off for people, and underneath all the possible solutions is the need to recognize that our loneliness is calling us to God and that God redeems our loneliness.   Pick up Finding God in my Loneliness if you want to see how God speaks into various causes/circumstances of loneliness.

Now what’s the connection between loneliness, Solo, motherhood and community groups?

Loneliness is a growing destructive epidemic and provides a great opportunity for us to direct ourselves and others to God who came near to us in Jesus.

 

Pastor Sam Allberry writes about how the movie Solo reveals that the answer to our aloneness is not necessarily romantic partnerships but deep friendship.  Chewie was in Han’s life far longer than Leia.  The movie shows the beauty of friendship. Read his thoughts here.

 

Melissa Kreuger writes about the loneliness of motherhood, the beauty of friendship and the goodness of God in this article.  This shows how friendship can help us connect to God and one another more intimately.

 

Lastly, community groups provide a set time and space in your schedule to share life with other people.  We need to make space to find and build the kind of friendships that help us enjoy and pursue God.  If you are feeling disconnected or lonely, consider getting involved as we relaunch community groups in October.

 

God and the gift of friendship, with him and with others, are the medicine to our bouts of loneliness.  Fight to push towards God and believe and act on what is true. If you are His, you are never alone.

The Community of Jesus

Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.
— Proverbs 18:1

By: Brad Rogers

As a pastor, I have noticed that whenever people become isolated, trouble usually follows.  In my own life, some of my greatest times of growth have come when others were courageously, thoughtfully and gracefully willing to show me where the reality of my life did not line up with the life Jesus called me to live.  As much as I would like to avoid such conversations, God has used them to help me become more like Jesus.  Sometimes though, I just to hide from others and do my own thing, pursue my own desires.  When I do, I am prone to think that I am only hurting myself.  In this short article, Tim Challies shows how that is just not the case.  As you read it, I invite you to think about your involvement in the community of Christ as it relates to your own growth as well as the growth of others.

Read the article here

Loneliness

By: Sean Scott

If you read the claim below, how would you react?

“Loneliness has the same effect on mortality as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.”

When I read that, my initial reaction was “that seems like a stretch, who said that?!”, only to learn that it was a former surgeon general, Dr. Vivek Murthy.

How do we think about loneliness? While we know it is an issue for those close to us, and even may realize we struggle with it ourselves, what can we do? The article that follows highlights information about this epidemic we are facing in Western culture. It will speak to our relational nature as intended by God, how neuroscience supports such theology, and how the church can respond to loneliness.

Read the article here